Can you bless the one who gave you the most PAIN in this life?
Hello friends, today is Guru Purnima.
A day to express our gratitude to all our Divine Gurus, who help and support us across lifetimes to cross this ocean of samsara and realise our true nature…that we are GOD….we are the ABSOLUTE….The Gurus help us cut the veil of illusion and realise that there is Only one…
This is a time we generally thank all those who have taught us, right from our mother/father/spouse/siblings to our teachers from school & college…everyone who has contributed to our learning…
However today I wish to also reflect on people who have given us pain…why they came into our life…have we created them…..and why we hold the hurt for them…
Friends we all have a Higher Self (call it God, Higher Intelligence, Cosmic Consciousness or whatever)
That Higher Self manifests in the form of our Spirit Guides that help design the various lifetimes for us (check my video on spirit guides – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6l5ISt9SqWo
It is that Higher Self that gives you outer Gurus…it has been my experience that various Gurus have come into my life, depending on my spiritual development level…it’s like a relay race and I am a baton….One Guru took me to a particular level and then handed over the baton to another Guru…and Guru need not be a person…it can be a simple book, or a little quote or something someone said, that stirs you, transforms you internally…
It is the Higher Self that creates ALL the people and situations in our life, lifetime after lifetime…especially people that give us pain, insult and humiliation..
End goal of all this leela (game) is to help us break our EGO…
What is EGO – the sense that I am separate from the Divine…the source of all pain in our life…
Remember this, the person who has given you the most pain in this life is also part of YOUR OWN Higher Self which has agrees to come into this lifetime with you to give you this lesson or take away the karmic debt that is stopping you to ascend to the ultimate goal – unification with the Absolute…realizing that you yourself are GOD..
That person does nothing but brings out your own HIDDEN PAIN…pain that you have accumulated over lifetimes….pain of separatedness from the Divine Father or Divine Mother as you may want to call it..
They point out towards the need to heal that hurt, otherwise you will keep carrying on that pain across lifetimes..and face them again and again…
It is said that the person who hurts you the most in this life is the first one who cheers for you when you reach the spirit world, if you have met your tests well…
Dear Friends, we live in this big illusion (remember the movie MATRIX) and Guru creates all situations in life to help you come out of this matrix and also supports and heal you in this process..
Today, while we remember our teachers, do also spend time thanking and blessing people who have hurt you, insulted you, humiliated you – without them you would not have reached to this level and would not be reading this…
Since we are beings that possess free will, we have a choice…to hold the resentment towards them, or to bless and forgive them for what they did…
And the choice you take will decide your life…
No need to call them and all, even if you silently bless them and forgive them in your heart, that is more than enough…Release all your hurt towards them,….that hurt is what is blocking your growth and keeping you in the matrix….
Once you start blessing people who have given you the most pain, you will see how your life starts to change…the path becomes clear…the roadblocks get cleared….you TRANSFORM and reach a different level…
You can do this simple exercise:
Simply sit for a few minutes today, take a few deep breaths and then take the intention –
I am so grateful to all people, event, situations in my past, present and future for all the lessons to help me in my spiritual evolution to what I am today. I bless and pray for the well being of these people events situations and release myself of all the pain and blocks that I have retained within myself and that are holding my spiritual growth”
Good to read all this – the question is – will you do it?
Do share your thoughts. I wish you love, light and many blessings on this Guru Purnima!!
2 replies on “Can you BLESS the people who gave you PAIN?”
Dear Abhinav Sir,
This is a very beautiful perspective shared by you on people who give us pain in our lifetime and how they are our best teachers. In my lifetime I have come across many such people and as you rightly said, life seems like a relay race taking us from one lesson to the next. I just hope God gives us strength to bear our trials and tribulations and helps us move on with courage to finally merge into the Divine Higher Self as the journey of life ends.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
Thanks for sharing Pooja ji..very true….all we can ask God is to give us strength to face our lessons with a smile. thanks for sharing.